What to do when you’re really flat and the hits keep coming.
Connection. The answer is always connection.
Connect with something that gets you out of your head. Focussing on feeling flat and that the hits keep coming will instruct your Reticular Activating System in your brain (the part that filters incoming stimuli down to an amount we can cope with, and which will as a matter of system, focus on what supports the line of thought of your brain) to continue looking for those things and bringing them to your attention.
So, here are some ideas to get out of that funk using connection
1. Connect with loving people. If you have people available to you get yourself into a conversation that’s not about the hard stuff, or better yet that is not even about your paradigm. It will expand your mind to how much there is beyond *this*
2. Connect with others by helping. Helping is a beautiful way to bring gratitude into your life, giving to others where they need or ask for help, is a way to remind yourself of the areas of your life that you are abundant in resource- love, time, money, effort, insight
3. Connect to a part of you- go through your old journals snd look at how far you’ve come. See who you were and marvel at what you used to think. What was mind-bendingly hard or important then, which is insignificant now, or which you survived.
4. Connect to your body- think about what she needs. Is she thirsty? Is she hungry? Cold? Hot? Uncomfortable? And meet that need with care, make a drink that she wants, lovingly prepared in your favourite vessel, or a meal that doesn’t come from a packet even if it’s just cheese on crackers, or a jumper that’s soft and snuggly and nourishing.
5. Connect to your creativity- get out your favourite medium and allow expression, focus on the process not the outcome, allow yourself to create in this space and encapsulate all the things into the artwork, before honouring it with the right space to be housed in, and moving on with your day.
6. Connect to your accomplishment- look at your list (I know you have one!) and pick out something achievable, and go do it. Then celebrate yourself having done it. Action creates motivation, do another if the feeling moves you and you have time, to build momentum. Definitely pause to acknowledge and celebrate the accomplishment.
7. And, as always, connect to your breath. Stop, focus on breathing, square breathing if you can, four times, before moving on.
Gentle with you
A
Ps- this is me, practising number 2, and off to do number 4!
Image Id- raindrops on green leaves. Photo credit – Unsplash Marc Zimmer
Amy Madden 